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Tuesday, September 11th, 2012
9:57 pm
Saturday, November 21st, 2009
7:13 pm
NarAnon Group Online

Serenity Seekers

A NarAnon Family Group Online is a new group online with meetings online

hopefully more people will seek out help where ever they can find it, this new forum that has opened up helps people discuss their issues and tries to help everyone get back the Serenity we all deserve

its good since Al Anon and Nar Anon both deal with similar issues , and the online group has meetings online, in case there is not A meeting locally

http://naranongrouponline.com/forum for the forum
Monday, August 11th, 2008
10:36 pm
Addiction and marriage/long term relationships
{ Mods, if this is not allowed, please let me know so I can delete. I promise this isn't random spam though }

I am dealing with a pretty stressful situation with my husband right now, and as I was searching through livejournal, I wasn't coming up with any communities that seemed helpful. So I decided to create one.

addictedpartner is a community I created just tonight to give myself (and hopefully others) a place to talk about their spouse's addiction.

For me personally, it effects everything about my day to day life, and I don't feel like there are many people I can share that with. I really need a place to do that, and people to do it with.

If you are involved (romantically) with someone who has an addiction, please join.

Thanks so much for letting me post this here.
Saturday, August 9th, 2008
3:31 pm
My ex-wife just went to rehab for cocaine a few days ago. I'm a former cocaine addict/alcoholic, so I know what she's going through...so she turns to me and confides in me. I really want to be there for her, but my girlfriend has a problem with me talking to my ex so much. I don't know what to do. My ex-wife needs my help. I'm the only person she has who understands what she's going through. But at the same time, I don't want to continue fighting about it with my girlfriend.

On top of that, I still feel guilty about her using. I feel as though it is somehow my fault. I had a relapse that lasted for quite a while when we were together, and she stood by me through it. I never did coke around my ex-wife, so she was never exposed to it around me, but I still feel like I'm responsible for her habit. Like she wouldn't have tried it if I hadn't done it. So I don't know if I should, but I partially blame myself.

I haven't drank or used in nearly a year and a half, but it's still hard to deal with all of this sober.
Sunday, July 6th, 2008
7:24 am
Alanon Intl Convention: Saturday
x-posted personal + community
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Current Mood: grateful
Saturday, July 5th, 2008
8:09 am
Thursday, July 3rd, 2008
10:34 pm
1:10 am
Alanon International?
Anybody else here going to the International?

I'll be there. I was kinda wanting to do a tweme like #AfgIntl2008 or something like that.. searching around, nobody else has done that either. Then again, principles above personalities and public anonymity.. *internal struggle, i'm not trying to represent Al-Anon, just make it easier to find me within Al-Anon*

Not to say that Al-Anon hasn't used security through obscurity.. won't say where, don't want to break the obscurity...

Ah well. I'll let it go. My desire to be "famous", to be "part of" in my own geeky little way -- perhaps, defect of character. I shall go, and I shall open up, and enjoy self.
Sunday, October 7th, 2007
1:34 pm
from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon
October 7th

Heard at an Al-Anon meeting:
"Before I came to Al-Anon, it was like groping around in a dark room, trying to sidestep obstacles without being able to see them. Because there was no light, I was constantly getting hurt because I tripped over things, or bumped into them.
"Then I came to Al-Anon and learned that I have the power to turn on the light, to get a clearer view of my life, its difficulties and good things. Often I still forget to turn on the light. I still hurt myself. But I'm getting better as I do more reading and living the program."

Today's Reminder

Looking for the light in a grim situation? Here it is, in Al-Anon. Nobody can force you to accept it, but you'll want to when you learn how much easier it can become to deal with life's inevitable problems. As one member put it: "I see things differently now."

"...and God said: Let there be Light...."

"...light always dispels the darkness."
Saturday, October 6th, 2007
11:56 am
from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon
October 6th

Sometimes it happens that a member at a meeting "talks good Al-Anon" but those who know her are well aware that it is only skin-deep. She professes compassion for the alcoholic, but all the softness goes out the window when she is crossed or disappointed or annoyed. The real, untamed faults come through, and she hardly even realizes it herself.
When we make only superficial changes in ourselves, and give only ardent lip service to the program, our progress is slow and our relapses many. The regeneration must be a true spiritual rebirth. It must go very deep, with each character flaw replaced by a new and good quality.

Today's Reminder

I must be completely honest with myself in uncovering the faults which hamper my spiritual growth. One by one, watchfully and painstakingly, I will replace them with constructive attitudes.

"Men imagine they communicate their virtue...only by overt actions and words. They do not see that virtue or its opposite emits a breath at every moment."
(Emerson: essay on Self-Reliance, paraphrased)
Sunday, September 30th, 2007
12:45 pm
from One day at a Time in Al-Anon
September 30th

Once there was a man whose beloved wife was transformed from the charming girl he had married into a sodden drunkard. She suffered from a disease called alcoholism, although neither of them knew it.
He was always angry and frustrated because he couldn't make her stop drinking. The more he tried, the worse she felt about it, and the more she drank. She was full of guilt and self-reproach because she left everything to him. He had to get the children ready for school, do the shopping, cook meals and clean house.
Then one day somebody told him about Al-Anon. Although he knew his case was hopeless, he thought he'd try it anyway. As he read, and asked questions and listened at meetings, he found he could get some perspective on his problems. When he learned his wife had a disease, compulsive drinking, he stopped blaming himself for not being able to control her. He realized his children resented him because he was often cross and unreasonable, and that they loved mama because she never scolded and they knew instinctively she was sick. He began to consider his own needs, for rest, quiet and a bit of recreation, and arranged to have a housekeeper take over the home chores. He made changes, but especially his attitude toward the alcoholic.
After a spell of rebellion and resistance, she saw that she would have to get help.
One day she asked him to take her to an AA meeting.
Saturday, September 29th, 2007
1:08 pm
from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon
September 29th

Someone suggested we add another slogan to those we use in Al-Anon: Listen and Learn. My first reaction was: "No! Not everybody at an Al-Anon meeting says something that is helpful. What about those who advise: 'Throw the bum out!' Doesn't that negate everything we're supposed to heard in Al-Anon?" But wait! What I learn from the negative comments can be useful in opening my mind to my own wrong thinking. When someone gives advice, I can say to myself: "But we're not supposed to advise in Al-Anon." If someone expressed hostility and resentment for what the alcoholic does, it can teach me to avoid those very things in myself.

Today's Reminder
Listen and Learn is sound doctrine, if we use it well. We don't make significant progress in our thinking if we're only listening to ourselves talk.

"It is the disease of not listening...that I am troubled with"
(William Shakespeare)

"I pray that I may learn from listening-- whether or not I agree with what I hear."
Friday, September 28th, 2007
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